First of all you need to dispel the notion that being narcissistic means you are one kind of person. Narcissism exists on a [...]
As a mental health worker or someone affected by mental health issues, what is one thing you would want to say to educate people about mental health and to lessen the stigma and shame surrounding it?
Mental illness is no different from physical illness, except it’s…..mental. Some people seem to forget that the brain is part of the body, [...]
I see both therapeutic ruptures and criticisms as opportunities to deepen the therapeutic alliance and promote internal growth in my clients. In fact, [...]
Why is it that some people are so slow/dense/stubborn at changing their behavior? They’ll get called out on it, they will outright admit it was wrong and apologize for it, and then the next day they will turn around and do the exact same thing again.
They are not “slow/dense/stubborn”. They are human. People develop their behaviors for reasons. Once you understand how important those reasons are, it’s quite [...]
I have made a lot of progress in therapy over the past 3 years. Yet I feel out of control when my therapist leaves in holidays. What can I do to maintain stability when he’s away?
That’s an excellent question. Ideally it’s something you should discuss with your therapist but I’m guessing you probably have. I think it can [...]
After hugging my therapist twice (I asked), he had told me that he can’t hug me anymore because it’s forbidden in therapy. Did he act professionally?
While there isn’t one way to act professionally as a therapist, setting appropriate boundaries is essential. Some therapists will disclose more personal information [...]
My new therapist doesn’t like me, I am unperturbed. However, he suggested that I don’t need therapy and am using it as a crutch. I disagree, how do I handle this with him?
I don’t know exactly how or why you’ve determined he doesn’t like you. This sounds like a projection/distortion. If he’s done something overtly [...]
Therapists, do you think of your clients when therapy has ended? How do you draw the line between thinking about them too much and (sorry for this) being human?
Yes, I often think of clients after therapy has ended. This question can be read different ways. You may be referring to when [...]
What can I try when CBT and DBT therapy didn’t work? Yes, I put in 100% several times and over many years. I’ve tried talk therapy with several different types of mental health professionals and always get the same advice.
Advice is rarely helpful. CBT and DBT are more focused on changing the behaviors, as opposed to addressing the underlying issues. I recommend [...]